Ubuntu

“I am because you are, you are because I am” or “Ubuntu” in the Xhosa and Zulu language meaning “the interconnectedness of humanity” 

 Our elders are what keep us connected, rooted and attuned with ourselves. Historically our elders were considered invaluable to our growth and understanding of self in community. Unfortunately modern society has fallen far from preserving this human necessity. We find evidence of this when we look at the deplorable, and unsafe facilities that we throw our elders into, from which so often is the beginning of their demise. We all have to commit to changing these patterns of destruction by providing a safe, caring, respectful, authentic and supportive environment for our elders. We should bring back ritual, griots, and natural medicines. Their inner wisdom, ancestral lineage and spiritual knowing should be honored, respected and shared within community. The benefits can provide self fulfilling preservation as we learn more about ourselves through their eyes, and they through ours.  

~Zaire King, MA, LMFT

The Dynamic Marriage

Marriage is an active, dynamic, living organism that is constantly changing and morphing, whether we like it or not. Whether we choose to change or morph with this dynamic, is entirely up to us. To actively choose to evolve within and in between the marriage is inviting opportunity for growth, success and relational wellness. Once married it does not mean we have arrived at the finish line and accomplished all of our relational needs. Marriage is not a fixed point for which we land. To truly be satisfied we must be willing to move with the tides of change, whilst maintaining healthy ideals of self. Why move? Because marriage is active, and should feel like an adventure, this is what makes the union pleasurable! The adventures we seek can be with travel, sexual exploration, children, or whatever our heart desires. When we can take this ride with someone we love, trust and respect, life can be that much sweeter.

~ Zaire King, MA, LMFT